|Vogue magazine cover, May 1917 Español: Portada de la revista Vogue correspondiente a Mayo de 1917 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)|
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One of the statistics mentioned how girls feel after flipping through a fashion magazine for 3 minutes. This is something I wanted to write about when I was living in New York in 2009. My own personal realization was that every time I flipped through those "cheesy Magazines" as I call them, I found myself feeling almost this odd sense of guilt, self loathing, even "Yucky", dumber for having done the mag review at all.
I think Fashion is an art form, including accessories which was what I designed. I look through magazines for inspiration not just for what I might wear, but for how I might decorate my home - and not to appease anyone else, but to give me a sense of visual pleasure that actually relaxes me.
I love looking at magazines and seeing someone "relatable" wearing a beautiful gown that I know must have taken hours to hand make, or a piece of jewelry that was so meticulously done it really takes intelligence and engineering talent as well as a designer's eye. Do I enjoy some of the entertainment value as well, like coverage of the gowns from the Oscars? Yes. I like to watch movies, like most people, and there is a mindless entertainment in seeing the fashions people wear on the red carpet. Do I take it seriously or think it is important on a world stage? No. But, again, easy for an adult to differentiate, less for a teen or a kid.
Even better, we can simply TALK to our daughters about what they can achieve and why they should ignore what bombards them in a negative way. There is so much power in the simple act of communication - and even more - in leading that charge by practicing what you preach with your child. That means mommy shouldn't be talking about starving to fit into a dress for the next society event in front of her daughter. If your teen really wants to look at a certain magazine, why not go through it with them, and discuss the parts that don't send a good message, and why she should analyze it and not follow negative paths.
Women have been trained to keep one another down by competing instead of supporting and propping one another up. I think that is the wrong approach. I in no way advocate the idea of ignoring, or dismissing male leadership or male run entities, It's just that I think with a little more female leadership, more change could happen, more communicating could happen, more lifting one another up.
We don't need to compete, we need to help promote one another for the true value we have as women. Think about it. In a family dynamic, even where the mom is a stay at home, she really does "run" the household. The moms I know who work and are mothers do an obscene amount more on the domestic front even when they contribute equally financially.
The point here? There is nothing women can't accomplish. I do think that one reason so few women go into leadership roles in any arena is because when the baby making years happen, if they financially "can" they feel the need to be home. I respect that. I don't engage in that battle of stay at home mommies vs. working mommies. I think we all have way more in common than we realize and it's time to bridge that gap.
Sometimes stay at home moms feel lost when kiddo is older and goes to school and forgets the value that she really has. She feels like "just a mom," but she has lost touch with her power and knowledge that she really does have ability to do more (if she wants, because being a mom is for sure the hardest job EVER). There is so much that can be contributed to in their community, schools, or even business.
Women, female teens, children, there is literally nothing you can't accomplish if you really want to.
You will not feel better because you are a size 2 and look like a magazine model, but you will feel pretty darn good if you contribute to the betterment of the world in some small or great way. It could be through work, volunteer, simply focusing on raising well adjusted kids. Whatever it is that moves you inside, focus on that.
I'm not saying you should let your body and face go to pot, I'm just saying, don't let the superficial things be the ones that drive you because those things will never truly fulfill you.
I admit to being far from perfect on all of the above, but I am proud to be part of the conversation and to TRY to be a voice in this arena and TRY to lift up my female friends and my daughter and her little friends as they grow up.....